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Paul Sawayer

Life Storms Conqueror, Positive Change Instigator, Full Cup Maker, Inner Power Unleasher, Reflective Listener and Second Chance Believer


Paul Sawayer

Licensed Professional Counselor;

State of Texas : 8040

Trained, Certified Hypnotist

Expert Level Life Coach

Executive Life Coaching

E-Therapy Cafe®

Areas of Expertise:

Individual, Couples, Families, Substance Abuse, Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (non-military related), Post Traumatic Syndrome (military related), Veterans adjustment issues Grief Issues,  Death and Dying Issues,  Life Transition Issues, Covid19 Trauma Issues,  Sexuality Therapy,  LGBQT Issues, Marriage and Divorce Issues, Premarital Counseling, Criminal Justice Involvement Issues, First Responder Issues; Personal Faith Issues;, Retirement adjustment issues, Financial Stress Issues and Executive Life Coaching. 


Transcendental and Phenomenological based approach with expertise in numerous sub-specialties including solution focused and strength based change, CBT, Hypnosis. Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Trauma Focused Therapy and just plain old talking and listening!

I am a transcendental and phenomenological therapist with expertise in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Hypnosis. Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Trauma Focused Therapy and just plain good old talking and listening!! 


I am what is known as “seasoned”, which is a nice way of saying that I am decidedly older than most of my fellow therapists and coaches. What sets me aside is the practical “wisdom” I have accumulated from my many years on planet earth!  I even had a dinosaur for a pet!  You can even call me Gramps if it gives you a warm fuzzy!


As you can probably tell, having a sense of humor goes along with that seasoned wisdom, and is an important part my style. I apply logistical solutions and strategies toward problem solving. My approach integrates Family Systems Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, and Cognitive Reframing. My emphasis is on positive growth and change.   


My first objective in both coaching and counseling is to provide you with an experience of feeling respected for who you are at the present moment and to give you personal time where you feel heard and seen and valued for your uniqueness as a human being  working in a safe and non-judgmental space.


The eventual goal is giving you your “wings” so you can begin flying solo and fly off into new life challenges and know that you are always welcome to come back whenever you need refueling! I won’t offer you any magical or instantaneous solutions because I am not a magician, but I am someone who is here simply FOR YOU. So come, talk it out, and take away from our time together what you need and what works for you. I look forward to the opportunity to walk “wisely” by your side as you grow!

About Me. 

Animal Lover, Espresso Fanatic, World Traveler and a Decidedly Unconventional Thinker 

I love to listen to different kinds of music from classical to jazz and creatively compose on the piano, otherwise called “plinking”!  I enjoy ballroom and country western dancing as well as exercising with music. Writing poetry and prose related to life common life experiences fuel my soul!  As a former administrative law judge and State Police Investigator,  “getting to the bottom of things” comes naturally.

I approach life with a natural desire for adventure and a strong appreciation for cultural considerations. Having traveled to Puerto Rico, Mexico and Panama, I am in love with the bright colors, spicy tastes, and especially the love of family and community found within the Spanish Culture. 


The one universal truth regardless of who you are or what you do, is that our lives will come to an end, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t live our short lives fully in the moment until that end comes. And yes, awareness of your death is the best motivator for your life.


My loves are my lady cat Bandita a Ragdoll Siamese breed, and my partner in crime lady who loves to ask a million questions, travel and professional cook.  If I'm near an ocean~ I love to build sand castles and fish and bask in the sun.

Professional Background. 

Paul Sawayer is a Board Certified Licensed Professional Counselor in the state of Texas. He has integrated his professional experiences in the mental health field with his professional work, training and education, law enforcement, corrections and education.  He is trained in forensics with an emphasis in PTSD traumas related to violence, sexual assault and physical injury. His 30 year work experience encompasses community and government sectors, including inpatient and outpatient mental health treatment, substance abuse venues, judicial systems, family systems, financial advising, a criminal justice expert. As a life long educator, Paul has worked with widow, widowers, caregivers, Alzheimers and hospice caretakers, and others striving to build resilience and manage grief and compassion fatigue. He has been in the field since 1980, giving him a unique perspective into culture, diversity, change, and resiliency. 


Paul is currently accepting new clients, so feel free to contact us to set up an initial appointment or ask any questions you may have. He is very flexible when it comes to scheduling, and has more available appointment times available than what is listed on his calendar. He can be reached directly via email at


Paul has a varied professional background and hobbies. Wise and quirky, and more importantly, I respect his input....

Paul is easy to talk to. he listens and provides some great guidance. He is easy to talk to and helps us make sense of of the challenges, 

Paul is the greatest. My (new) wife and I are quite fond of him and will be coming back for more visits with him.

Paul was exceptionally insightful and helpful. He went "above and beyond" by providing "homework" that provide extra value to the journey and links to online resources. Highly recommend!!

Paul did an excellent job. He has very good listening skills and was able to gently uncover some issues with my wife and I. With his guidance my wife and I have become closer.

Paul was flexible on his approach based on our needs - from meeting times to doing 1:1s and meeting as a couple with him - he literally met us where we were. He is a good listener and really understood our challenges and goals as a couple. He always recalled exactly where we left off as if we were the only couple he was working with and responded to emails in between sessions with a lot of thought. One of the most unique things about Paul is that he was able to summarize complex things down to a more simple way of looking at it and then would provide insights while reflecting it all back to us for our input on how he had framed it (which usually made a lot of sense). He gave us light homework, recommended helpful readings, to help improve our communication with each other. I highly recommend working with Paul!

Paul Sawyer has been amazing and we have come to appreciate and value his professional advice.

This man is "spot on!". We appreciate his candor, humor, and  ability to help to see things we don't want to see without making us feel awkward.  He's real and just what we needed. 

Since working with Paul, our communication dramatically improved!

Paul helped us to recognize coping mechanism for our long distance relationship. We are hopeful for the future. 

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